2019 was a true year of self-discovery for me. At the end of 2018, I had just started going to Cyclebar Red Mill and REALLY started working on myself. And you guys have all heard the story – it’s because a friend told me that I wouldn’t do it. That I was the queen of saying that I was going to do something about my health and my weight, and then not following through. And they were right.
I had a bunch of other people tell me, “You look great the way you are! You don’t have anything to worry about! It’ll come!”
I am here to tell you that it WON’T come on it’s own – not anything worth having. And my friend who challenged me? Well, they knew me well enough to know not to just be a yes person. Not to just say, “yes, girl, you’ve got this!” For me? The kind of people that I need to be surrounded with are the ones who will challenge me and hold me accountable. I need the people who will call me out when I fall off the dieting wagon or don’t show up to the gym. If you know me, you know that I’ll do whatever I can do be as comfortable as possible – so I need to be surrounded by people who will challenge that.
Once I started surrounding myself with those people, the ones who really challenged me, change started to happen. Sometimes the best support is the kind of support where your friends challenge you and the sense of who you think you are and what you think you’re capable of.
Change Your Mentality
It wasn’t just change with my diet or working out. It was also a change in my mentality about the things that give me stress and anxiety. Things like camping, travel, that used to give me full-fledged panic attacks became things to look forward to. The discomfort, the challenge, made it more exciting. Sure, I’m still the most anxious person I know, but I’ve found comfort in the unknown this year. I’ve also had some of the most amazing experiences of my life because I put my preconceived notions aside and just went for things and did them anyway.
The point of this blog is to say this: none of that happened on its own. Sure, I was the shepherd of the progress. None of it would’ve happened if I didn’t take some initiative. But you know what else? It wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t have my friends, family and the people that I surround myself with to challenge me. Do the shit that makes you uncomfortable – and surround yourself with people that will support that.
My resolution for 2019 was to live up to my potential – and I think a big part of that was getting uncomfortable and getting out of my comfort zone. I definitely did that – Misty Saves the Day had the best year it’s ever had (by a lot) and we gained two more awesome employees, I lost 30 pounds, I traveled to so many places that I’d never been before and done things I never would’ve considered (and LOVED it!).
When you look back on your year, what did you do to make sure that you lived up to your potential? Who did you surround yourself with that helped you make that happen?
My 2020 resolution? It’s going to be to stay uncomfortable. Keep pushing, keep challenging myself – and maybe reciprocate that for those that are around me. You’d be surprised a the things that you find that you love – like getting outside, hiking, using the film camera (that I only used once but fell in love with), camping, traveling, NYC, adventures. It’s made life feel a lot more like living, and I can’t wait to see what happens in 2020 when I embrace that idea even more.